I realize that similar questions have been asked in masses but I still haven't found an actual answer to my question.
I read this answer:
Look at the bottom of your reputation page, and check the checkbox you find there:
It at least gave me a clue of what I did wrong (even though I got no notification of the rep loss, I noticed it by chance). However, one of my questions was removed (but there was no link to the question), so I went on and found these questions (among other less popular ones):
In the first of the above linked questions they speak hypothetically about making it possible to see your own deleted posts and this answer says:
Should this be reconsidered? There are some valid points in Jeff's answer and its comments, but IMO recent changes to SO made this feature request a lot more useful (and less harmful)
Those answers and questions were from mid-2011, and I can't find anywhere that definitively says if this feature is there or not, or if it never will be.
So my questions are: