I am guessing there is a feature I simply don't know about which can get me around the issue I describe in my question: re-stating - sometimes I post to multiple stack exchange sites, say SO and Programmers. Then replies come in on both. I see the red circle with a "2" appear and I excitedly click on the first one but don't register what the second one was. In this scenario it's possible I miss replies.
Is there an easy solution to the issue of my use case here?