So the short answer goes like this: Discussion and or subjective questions are discouraged on StackOverflow and maybe encouraged on Programmers.SE. If you're trying to start a discussion, don't do it on SO. If you're trying to find something that only applies to you or to a very local group of people, then again, SO is not the place to do that.
Now, if you have a question as to "which software tools are commonly used by SQL programmers to get better code coverage" then that would be an excellent SO question (albeit likely a dupe).
If you were asking "What things do I need to learn about to advance my SQL abilities to get past the basics of CRUD" then perhaps that might be an SO question (if you can phrase it to sound like an objective question). Even that question is probably better suited for Programmers.SE.
I really don't think you're in the right place. Are you looking for a place to associate with other SQL users? Try the chatroom for SQL on http://chat.stackoverflow.com/rooms/33/sql-database and encourage other users you know to visit the same chatroom. Alternately, join a local users group (even for a language not SQL and then ask them who is interested/involved in a local SQL users group).