In my opinion, on Server Fault the level of ability is not as important as the role of the server/network and your level of responsibility for it. Generally, we expect you to have root/admin access. The question should not be about things only serving your home.
There are already questions that cover most of what you mentioned in your comments – though some aspects of those questions are also covered on the Database Administrators and Webmasters site.
Honestly, I think you should just take the time to write a good, clear, non-subjective question. Pick the site that looks like the best fit to you. If a good question is asked on the wrong site, it will probably get migrated to the best site and get answers. Having a question you ask get migrated is not a bad thing.