I posted an uncomfortable question that many people down- and upvote and the consequences are:

  1. it gets closed by someone
  2. it got 30 downvotes
  3. I want to delete it by myself
  4. it is deleted by someone.
  5. I got a 100 reputation penalty.

My question is:

Is it fair if many people want to get all of someone's property by vote? Is it true Stack Overflow is using this rule to manage other users' reputations, questions and answers.

I feel upset, please inform me and let me delete it by myself if anything uncomfortable.

I am not only a user but also an active participant. I feel many people get too many privileges.

My deleted question is specific clue. It is my fault, but I want to know. The majority can alway judge the minority, I think it is a rude rule. Do you agree with the rule?

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    And if we left the choice of deletion solely up to the OP, do you think everyone would heed the advice to delete? =)
    – J. Steen
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:27
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    When a downvoted question gets deleted, you get back the reputation you lost from the downvotes. The 100 reputation penalty means that your question accumulated a few spam or offensive flags. If that's what happened, then I think "uncomfortable" isn't really an accurate description.
    – yannis
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:28
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    Your question was really off-topic. It is better suited for a doctor. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:30
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    SO took back my 100 reputaitons without informing me for my **funny** non-programming question. You have a weird definition of "funny". Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:36
  • Is it true that the majority get the truth. and can decide the minority>
    – Henry Leu
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:36
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    Why would you even think that posting a non-programming question on Stack Overflow would be a good idea in the first place?
    – J. Steen
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:37
  • I know it is not good quesiton. can i delete it by myself?
    – Henry Leu
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:43
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    @HenryLeu - as long as there are no upvoted answers, you can delete the question. It's better to think before posting the question, however. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:45
  • I like this site, and I spent much time helping others and finding answers. I just want to tell people. only judging by votes is not enough to a health and professional q&a site. people needs humor and relaxation and emotional factors
    – Henry Leu
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:52
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    From the FAQ: "You should only ask practical, answerable questions based on actual problems that you face. Chatty, open-ended questions diminish the usefulness of our site and push other questions off the front page." It's as simple as that. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:54
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    @HenryLeu: the rest of us like this site because it's a good place to get answers for programming questions, because the useless garbage is quickly removed. You're proposing leaving the useless garbage for longer. "I'll remove this if it gets 40 downvotes" means, to me, "I don't care about the community at all and want to waste at least 40 people's time."
    – Wooble
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:55
  • @HenryLeu: humor and relaxation and emotional factors are all well and good. Be we don't want them mixed up with our technical Q&A. Stack Overflow (and Stack Exchange in general) is a very focused community. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:56
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    Hmm I'm really tempted to vote to delete this question... Commented Mar 22, 2013 at 4:44

3 Answers 3


Your question was flagged as offensive, so you therefore lost your 100 rep.

As for deletions, we as a community can't expect to wait for users to realise their question is unsuitable and delete it themselves. In most cases, that NEVER happens (people often oppose the decision).

Judging by the question, to say it was off topic is an incredible understatement. If you really want to know the answer though, you should sign up to Area51 and commit to either the HealthCare, Relationships and Dating, or Sexuality proposals, maybe they'll be able to answer it.

  • OK, I 've got SO's rule. I am practical active programmer so i spent my 100 reputation to prove a thing. it 's worth for me. Can i delete this question by myself. Do i have this right to do?
    – Henry Leu
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:56
  • I don't have any rights to do anything. thanks for all your attention.
    – Henry Leu
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 15:01
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    @HenryLeu As an active user, you deliberately asked a question that was against the rules. Not only against the rules, but offensively so. You paid the price for it. You have the same rights as everyone else. It does not override other user's rights, which was to flag it as offensive. What you're wanting is to circumvent the penalty enacted by the community. Actions have consequences.
    – fbueckert
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 15:19

Your question read, in full:

If ( Coders sit long and impact sex capability ) is true?

I want to know if coder can kid here technically. if not, i will delete this quesiton. it's boring afternoon.

You accumulated at least 6 offensive flags with that post, enough for it to be deleted automatically by the Community user and for you to be given the -100 reputation penalty. See How does the “rude or abusive” flag work?

I suspect that you didn't realize this, but apart from the post being widely off-topic, your question title uses language that can be seen as offensive to native English speakers.

You were waiting for the post to reach 40 downvotes. You should have deleted it without waiting so long, you were being given clear signals through the rapid accumulation of downvotes that your post was not appropriate.

Your question was ill-advised, yet you persisted in leaving it in place. Even worse, you thought it fun to see if the question would reach 40 downvotes, practically demanding that the community waste their time on your post. Next time, please do check the FAQ before posting.

  • It probably attracted offensive flags rather than spam flags Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:32
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    @0A0D I'm also not a native English speaker, but I don't end my posts with "it's boring afternoon". (but my comment was snarky, so... gone)
    – yannis
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:32
  • @Yannis: "immature" non-English speaker then Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:33
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    @0A0D I'm immature and I have the diamond to prove it ;)
    – yannis
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:33
  • I 've seen a closed question which is closed by "not constructive or not real quesiton". I think that is very good quesiton. I just want to know why this happens. do we have a nicer approach to questions so called 'offensive'
    – Henry Leu
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:34
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    @HenryLeu: Even reworded to use more appropriate language, the question is completely off-topic for Stack Overflow. I am not aware of any Stack Exchange site where it would be on-topic. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:36
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    @HenryLeu, Stack Overflow is not a forum. If you want to engage in forum-like behaviors, find an appropriate forum that allows you to post supposedly "funny" time-filler questions. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:38
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    @MartijnPieters: well, if worded more carefully and backed with actual claims, Skeptics might take it on ;-) Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:39
  • I just want to delete it by myself. it is not alway good to judge something by vodes and the majority who have much privileges
    – Henry Leu
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:44
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    @HenryLeu: well, the community wishes something else. The community wishes to be able to get rid of content it does not agree with. And it does. Deal with it. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 14:45
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    @MartijnPieters - please tell me you are joking and that wasn't the question. Please. Even if it isn't true. Please.
    – SPArcheon
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 15:05
  • @SPArchaeologist: I wish it were so. Luckily the SO community dealt with it appropriately. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 15:06
  • @SPArchaeologist: Nope, that was the question. Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 15:06
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    @MartijnPieters - URGH. And someone wonder why it disappeared so quickly? OOOOOOK, I will exercise my right to refuse to comment -_-...
    – SPArcheon
    Commented Mar 21, 2013 at 15:10

I feel upset, please inform me and let me delete it by myself if anything unconfortable.

We did inform you. You had ample opportunity to delete the question yourself. You had over 20 minutes to do it before it was locked and deleted. The question did not go from 0 to -29 in one split second, and you were participating in the comment trail the entire time the question was visible.

If you were actively engaged in your question, you had more than enough time to recognize the fact that the community was telling you your question was "uncomfortable," as you would say, or just completely inappropriate for Stack Overflow.

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