Ok, I am not sure if this question is meant to be serious or a trolling attempt (since IMO it's very obvious why the room was deleted and I am apparently replying to a bot) but anyway …
This was the room description:
<Life> | Lounge
<Sociology> | Lounge
we discuss life. Now Featuring general advice on everyday life
Quoting our Definitive rules on chat rooms with non-technical discussion for Signs of inappropriate rooms:
The room's given topic (and thus its definition) already hints at the fact that people explicitly not want to talk about stuff that would be considered SO-related.
If you go through the transcript, you'll see that there is no content whatsoever that
generally (not necessarily exclusively) evolves around topics that are relevant to Stack Overflow. This doesn't mean it has to be about programming; it may also be about technology in general, about the programming community at large, or about Stack Overflow itself.
So there was nothing that would make this room qualify for keeping. It was just creating noise. So I deleted the room. In fact, I gave the reason
Ok guys, we are generous when it comes to off-topic but date-helpdesk is a bit too off-topic.
along with a link to the above guidelines and our FAQs. I assumed the owners of the room would see these messages. If that's not the case, I suggest you open up a feature-request for it.
As for the remainder of your question:
It is well known (I don't mean to offend anyone), but often good programmers are often anti-social, some Autistic. Thus, we should have a place for us to get help with our lives, and it was much nicer than spamming one of the main rooms. In fact, we had many regulars in that room.
Again, not sure if just trolling, but programming is a social activity of theory building. Consequently, the majority of it involves non-linear tasks, which in turn require a great deal of coordination and cooperation between team members and stakeholders which in turn requires communication (and lots of it). Given that premise - and I don't mean to offend anyone either - I wouldn't count the "anti-social programmer" archetype to be anywhere close to a "good" programmer at all. They might shine on the technical side, but most professionals don't work alone locked in basements anymore.
Now to make that absolutely clear: being an introvert doesn't make you a bad person. And the above is not to say we should exclude these folks by default. On the contrary. We should integrate them and give them an environment of trust in which they are not afraid to open up (in fact, that should be the default for everyone). Discussing that would have been on-topic enough (at least for me) to keep the room around.
I believe it is well known that the Lounge was recently frozen, supposedly for being off-topic. I believe it was accused of being "never related to code discussion" How is being always off-topic so different from being off-topic in general?
The room being always off topic is what the inhabitants themselves claimed. But that's not why it was frozen. It was put in a temporary timeout because a number of the inhabitants felt it was a smart idea to proclaim they cannot be arsed with our policies and insisted to talk off topic only in there (regardless of that being the factual case; they do talk on-topic, although with a lot of noise and swearing inbetween). If they would be always off topic indeed, chances are we would delete the room. Although a room as active as the Lounge needs special consideration before that happens.
Also, what about the causal chat room?
The room has definitely a lot of noise. That's quite common for rooms frequented by Indian people. When someone says "good morning" all the other people in the room will respond. It seems to be part of their culture. I've seen that in other Indian chat rooms as well. However, if you go through the transcript, you will see that there is at least some programming terms among the messages (like Android or onclick) and they frequently post links to questions. Since I don't speak Hindi I can't really tell though what the content is about (and that's a problem with non-english chat rooms indeed). But while it's not a good room, it doesn't need deletion (yet).
But would it be better to take it to our seperate room or spam our little discussion in a main room?
You can definitely chat about life, dating and cars in your main rooms as long as it doesn't annoy people trying to have an on topic discussion and as long as it gets back on topic eventually.
The alternative is to try one of our betas dedicated to these topics: