Are "Begging for votes" and "Reminding for upvotes" equivalent?
If so, and given that "Begging for votes" (="Reminding for upvotes", assumed) is generally looked down upon then a second question is brought.
I wonder why some find annoying that others try to help the community by a reminder for an upvote in any case without distinction. Moreover, I wonder why they find it more annoying than a comparable reminder for accepting an answer, which seems to be ok. The two look very similar to me. The interest behind any of these may be reputation with helping as a side effect, or helping with reputation as a side effect. And in any of the two cases, with or without technical merit, that is a completely separate issue. So,
What is the explanation for this differentiated perception?
I wouldn’t dare judging intentions, in general, and in particular if the outcome is useful for the community, and the inquiry is respectful. Some of these reminders may easily not fit the definition of rep-whoring: Stack Overflow users who post questions or answers for the sole benefit of accumulating as many reputation points as possible, without regard to the technical merit or the contribution to the system, and this is probably the cause of some acceptance.
PS2: I do have an opinion (made explicit), but I am looking for answers (whatever they may be) to the specific questions asked, so they would be useful for the community (including myself), to separate the wheat from the chaff. I take an answer that addresses the questions and clarifies as useful (even in dissent).