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- Are Stack Overflow people *still* nice? 8 answers
I am a member of Stack Overflow in Portuguese, I cross-posted the exact same question on both sites:
On Stack Overflow
The first thing that happened was a useless comment asking why followed by a suggestion of a full library to use a single method that I asked and this library doesn't even do what I asked.
Another member came and suggested two libraries (which I don't want a full library for a single method) and neither libraries do what I want.
I've being trying to implement and I posted as an answer what I managed. Even though it is not really fast, it works pretty well.
I instantly got a downvote, the person that downvoted didn't even test or tried to understand what I tried for hours.
That is even disrespectful. This is not the first time it happened to me, I tried to ignore them with all my strength. Once I even had to report the comments and a mod cleaned up.
On Stack Overflow Portuguese
First comment was a member trying to understand what I wanted to do, he as probably not familiar with C# and Linq.
Second comment was on my answer, a guy told me that what is really making my method slow is the
No one judged me for what I am trying to do, no one tried to make me swallow a nasty library. Everyone so far tried to understand my question and help me out. After all, Stack Overflow is for members to help each other, isn't it?
I do not believe that I am the only one who feels this way. Stack Overflow was not like this a year ago. What happened? How can we improve the community and stop this hate behavior?
Updated Aug 2018
This is now being addressed by the new Code of Conduct
Thanks everyone in the community that helped me express this feeling and thanks Stack Overflow for creating this code of conduct and new flags.
Disclaimer: I feel like a lot of downvotes were by the lack of empathy. I guess it is really hard to communicate when someone reads what you write in a "binary way".
Also I've never had the intent to make it sound like SO PT is better than SO, if anyone thought that. It's just that SO PT was a new community, fresh, and people were being nice because of it.