I get an impression that SO is generally becoming overwhelmed with bureaucracy and all flaws in the modern world. We elect officials to take care of us, we create rules to make the "bad" people go away and have our little perfect space right here. But quite honestly - as Jobs pointed out when he returned to Apple - "there is no sex in that anymore!".
When question is asked, usually it is for a reason - the person asking is seeking an answer. Why is it, that so many questions get closed saying just "off-topic"? Now I'm not talking about people asking for "do my homework", but questions that are very specific and people tend to misunderstand and just rush for close. Without even saying WHY EXACTLY. Just offtopic, RTFM...(and that manual is effing loooong). Also with that comes another thing - a newbie signs up for SO because he/she is desperately stuck. Should he first aknowledge all of the rules to ask the question? The whole ecosystem is getting too big for newcomers to be "perfect" and the number of new "off-topic" questions will rise because quite honestly - who's reading long manuals?
The idea of SO is beautiful in its simplicity - programmers help out other stuck programmers. Why on earth do we need so many rules for such a simple task? Are we creating a documentation? No, we are helping each other out. Why should we have so many Do's and Don't's?
I'll leave the grassroots for debate with a quote:
Corruptissima re publica plurimae leges. --Publius Cornelius Tacitus (...and laws were most numerous when the commonwealth was most corrupt)
I can see the problem in my question as I made a mistake by giving example with an off topic question. I never wanted to question the system of SE. Its upvoting, downvoting, badges and rep - obviously that's what makes this site different from yahoo answers and ask.com and anything else out there. I obviously made a mistake too by answering misunderstood comments which made the discussion drift to questioning the whole SE system - not an intention.
I wanted to point out (actually it is written in the title), that as any other software, this website is getting too big with restrictions, rules and other obstacles, that doesn't help it at all. I believe that it is getting very complex - when you flag a question, you have to read through so much stuff that you're better off just leaving the question unflagged - it is not motivating the users to help when there's a wall of text with rules and choices. As somebody pointed out in the discussion - there are more people coming with bad questions as SO gets more popular - YES. By creating more complex rules, we will prevent them from asking bad questions - NO. And by increasing the number of new rules how to ask a question, and what belongs here and what not, the number of off topic questions will rise, because there is more people that hate reading wall of text with rules and will likely skip that part.