Actually the reason you've had a negative response to your question is that it's not on-topic for Stack Overflow.
Stack Overflow is primarily for questions about actual programming problems, not a general forum for programming questions.
In particular, Stack Overflow doesn't allow questions that are primarily opinion-based, as your question is.
If you'd like to feel the pulse and get an idea of what programmers think the best way to start is, you'd be better off with a more opinion-based website, like slant.co, for example, where that question would be very much on topic.
You seem slightly offended that people haven't carefully read what you wrote; carefully reading the site tour can give you clues as to which sort of questions will be welcome.
Stack Overflow is perhaps unusual compared to other sites in the sense that it invites questions (as you might in a forum) but yet it is fairly heavily curated (leaning towards wikipedia) with a pretty strict set of criteria for what's permitted (very much unlike yahoo answers). This unusual combination sometimes conflicts with new users' desire to get on with typing their question in a textbox without ploughing through introductions. This difference is, however, one of the reasons programmers like answering questions here; less chit chat, more programming. Yum.