Preamble: This is not yet a feature request. The point is to refine through discussion a potential future feature request.
I recently got one on Meta, and I felt pretty bad, because I felt I was trying to contribute and I saw I could be automatically enter a ban that none could reverse manually. Then by asking this question I learnt that the system is now much more tolerant (on Meta). But still, I got the scary warning pretty early (after one question marked as duplicate and one not successful feature request). So my questions are the following.
Why do we threaten so quickly with an automatic ban (on Meta)?
I understand the banning formula cannot be shared, but I think I would like to understand, (in percentage?), how close I am to getting banned when I see the warning? And if I am far, why do you warn me so strongly and scarily?
Let's say you really cannot share at which point I am on my walk towards the ban:
Can't there be two levels of warning (on Meta)?
The first one only with the constructive suggestions not even mentioning the possible ban (not even a warning in fact), the second the real warning with the threatening part (maybe well highlighted to show the difference).