We have general guidelines to the "Be Nice" policy, but they seem more along the lines of Supreme Court's famous "I know it when I see it" - which leads to supreme unhelpfulness to someone who is trying to answer a binary issue of "do I flag this specific wording, or am I being too sensitive about things".
The question is: in that situation, would asking on Meta.SE (including specific wording, but – presumably – excluding links to specific posts) be considered an appropriate venue to help guide the would-be flagger in the process of decision?
Please note that I anticipate at least one of the answers to be "When in doubt, always flag". That answer doesn't seem to address the root problem I have, which is a lack of non-personally-subjective resource to rely on when making flagging decisions.
This question arose from the perspective of the would-be flagger, but obviously, the same resource question might also be helpful to someone handling the flags