I know I am beating a dead horse, but that is because it is a topic that is so important to me personally but also the millions of us with autism that can nearly function in society.
I am having this conversation because I am trying to figure out a way to make a connection with neurotypical people that will allow us to function normally. Think of it as trying to force left handed people to use right handed equipment. There is nothing wrong with being left handed. There is nothing wrong with the way we think it is just different. And we do not want to be excluded.
I believe if I can solve this problem for myself, that this tool will help us to integrate with NeuroTypical people so we can make you feel comfortable.
I believe I communicate most effectively with analogies so I probably over use them.
But I am requesting that we make a change in the rules of SE to allow us to play golf at your country club using left handed golf clubs, even though there are not that many of us that are left handed.
I have a theory that I believe could be beneficial to the SE environment as a whole.
I exhibit common traits of people with a functional learning pattern. One of those traits is that we take comments directed at our username, as criticisms of ourselves personally. I believe that by simply removing the @Username from all comments we can evaluate those comments more objectively. And more importantly properly filter out the trash that neurotypical thinkers do intuitively.
I would suggest that when this option is active it is also important to remove the notification for comments directed at people with the filter enabled. Another common condition is a compulsion to deal with alerts like the inbox. I register that as a task that needs to be completed. As a result it begins to cause anxiety for me immediately when I see the notification. So the easiest way to relieve that anxiety is to deal with the notification, resulting often times in my feeling a need to reply to those comments. If you notify me I will infer the @Username in the comment many times.
Please note. This will not fix the comment problem. People who want to cause problems will still try to cause problems. But what this will do, I believe, is to reduce the amount of conflict visible on the site. I believe that will reduce the need for moderators to deal with those conflict flags. And will have a lasting effect of reducing this situational stress on the site as a whole.
What happens in my mind, and I believe this is common in people like me, is that we react to the acceptance of the perceived insult in the comment, by lashing back out in a way we feel is analogous to the slight we received. I know that I am doing it, but doing it relieves a certain amount of anxiety so I do it anyway. It is so habit responsive now that I often do not recognize I am doing it. Or forget that I did it when the problem escalates. And this problem builds until a moderator steps in. And I believe that is the intent of the argument anyway. Force the moderator to act. All because of something I am not equipped to deal with.
Yes this is irrational, and I am aware I should try to adapt, but all efforts thus far have failed, chances are I will take your attempt to help me solve my problem, that is probably obvious to you, as an insult and stubbornly refuse to even consider the possibility that you are right and I am wrong despite knowing full well that is what I am doing.
While I believe this feature would benefit me greatly. What it does is give moderators a tool to deal with people like me, who have the ability to contribute very constructively and positively to the community, but also become irrationally disruptive.
This is not an april fools joke... I have autism, I didn't make the connection that it could be percieved as one
If you think you understand what I am asking for please edit this to explain it in a way that does not sound like making excuses. I am trying to find a solution for people who don't fit in, to allow them to fit in. That is my goal here.
One last attempt to relate my issue to you.
- I have a bug in the programming of my brain.
- It is a bug that affects a small but significant number of
- That significant number of people inadvertently create corruption of the data in
stackexchange.data.(in the form of argumentative comment banter)
- It is functionally impossible to completely prevent those people with those defective systems from accessing the site, and corrupting the data
- Dealing with the corruption of the data takes takes an unreasonable amount of the site moderator's time, and causes corruption of the
moderator.systemtoo. (in the form of stress)
- This patch will not fix the problem with the defective systems, but it will allow this site to greatly reduce the amount of data corruption. This will reduce the amount of time spent dealing with the corrupted data, and provide an overall more pleasant user experience, at the inconvenience of only those persons who take advantage of the defective programming to cause more corruption.
- a subset of people who previously read directed messages as insults are able to read the messages objectively an respond in a more rational, and expected manner.
- Other people who see these messages directed at other people and previously perceived insult, no longer feel the need to defend others whom they feel are being picked on. This reduces the overall conflict level of comments
Potential other benefits: - This optional feature could be turned on permanently for members who choose to be disruptive anyway. In this way it would limit the amount of comment discussions these persons can stay active in, because it will require manual following of each thread for updates. This will reduce data corruption. - removing the ability to create directed comments from individuals who have engaged in argumentative behavior will prevent them from engaging in a prolonged instruction. This provides incentive not to abuse the system, with out resorting to a ban hammer or gamification penalty that moderators are often unwilling to use.
Please note: This feature
directed message notification is an important part of the SE workflow and for most people this feature is beneficial. Complete removal of this feature would, I believe, be detrimental to the site and is not being advocated for.