Before I came to SE, I haunted a more traditional, less strictly moderated forum in which it was common to plead in the alternative (if I may borrow a legal term) when asking questions. That is, people would start by asking the question they really wanted to ask, and then provided guidance to moderators* on how the question should be adjusted if it were to be determined (in their infinite wisdom) that the question was unacceptable for some reason.
On, SE, a question asked in such a way might look like this:
What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?
I really want to know about all swallows, but if this question is too broad as such, please instead interpret the question as covering European swallows only rather than downvoting and voting to close as too broad. If questions about uninjured birds are off-topic, assume that the swallow has sustained only a flesh wound. If it is unclear whether I am asking about swallows that have been turned into newts, assume that they haven't or that they have since gotten better. If this question would be a better fit on Shrubberies.SE, please go ahead and migrate it there with my blessings rather than simply commenting "Ni!" and leaving my question to the Roomba.
I have asked one or two questions in this format and can't recall getting a very bad reception, but I wanted to ask about the general consensus. Does asking in this way demonstrate appreciated sensitivity to the rules of proper question asking, or does it instead demonstrate ignorance of them? I.e. is it better to simply post a question and provide alternative guidance for moderating users, or is it better to first post on a per-site Meta or in chat to refine the question prior to posting? My hunch says the second, but it does seem that that would require more effort on the part of the community.
*On that site, decisions on whether a question should be closed and/or deleted were made solely by formally appointed Moderators, not the community.