This is specifically regarding updates to the new CoC (Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes) addressing personal pronouns.
The point, up front
With Internet hackers, bots, and miners collecting data and metadata on whatever content users put around the world, personal pronouns should be limited as a matter of security on any social media site (including forums like this).
The best solution would be to formalize the vernacular use of "they" for social media. Stack Exchange could be a leader in this.
This update to the CoC has been a source of division in the SE community; I started this when the vote count was -666. (I have not voted on it because I want to remain objective when writing this.)
Personally, I live by the rule that division and controversy indicate that there may be a more important question somehow overlooked. So, I reviewed my own beliefs about what I was reading...
I genuinely believe in the good will of both SE users and staff.
I have every intention to follow the new CoC; I'm not a "rebel".
I want a CoC that is a source of unity and not division because I want what is best for SE as staff, a company, and the community it celebrates.
Most of all: I want useful online tools to keep users safe.
Personal safety takes precedent
I live in Asia and often meet people who are concerned about being put in harm’s way, either due to governments that violate human rights monitoring their social media and tracing their information back to the user or from angry mobs and hate groups seeking to beat up people with a different opinion.
I think it is better for all user's safety if we encourage the good habit of not using personal pronouns in Internet discussion other than "they".
I think we all overlooked this, myself included.
Possible ways to implement
It could be a rule in the CoC to only use "they" for users' safety, with the disclaimer that safety and security must always come first and if safety leads to personal offense, that no offense is intended, but safety must be first, even when inconvenient.
Eventually, an AI could be written to rewrite personal pronouns in the discussion. But, the problem with that is that, if we agreed to this value of "safety-via-pronouns", the goal would be for users to develop good habits to use elsewhere. An AI would make it so that the habit wasn't developed, being too dependent on technology to keep us safe without responsibility.
I don't know that users would need to be penalized, only reminded and have content corrected. This would be soft-handed.
...But, any good idea needs vetting from the community first. So, I'm posting this for vote and discussion.
I am posting this genuinely to receive input from the community, not just to opine. Please, I genuinely invite answers that address better alternatives or reasons this would not be feasible or any other discussion.