I also want to know...from our LGBTQ users--are you offended when the person just doesn't include a pronoun at all? Because rules like this are FOR the people they might hurt. When a gender-neutral pronoun is used, does that cause harm? When no pronouns at ALL are used, does that cause harm? I'm asking to see if I can get a different perspective on this, though I have no problem using whatever pronouns a person wants, I'm worried that even though I really don't use them much (I say the OP or poster most of the time) that not using them will bring the hammer down, and I want to know how exactly SE can possibly determine what is in my mind as I write and how they would determine how I "naturally write"?
See below from the new COC...
Q11: If I’m uncomfortable with a particular pronoun, can I just avoid using it?
We are asking everyone to use all stated pronouns as you would naturally write. Explicitly avoiding using someone’s pronouns because you are uncomfortable is a way of refusing to recognize their identity and is a violation of the Code of Conduct.
Q12: Does this mean I’m required to use pronouns when I normally wouldn’t?
We are asking everyone to use all stated pronouns as you would naturally write. You are not required to insert pronouns where you otherwise would not.
If we aren't required to insert pronouns, but we have to use them as we would "naturally write" how can Stack Exchange possibly determine the intent? Q12 speaks to what Monica was saying, which was that she doesn't actually use pronouns in that way. But how can the SE possibly determine, in a given piece of writing if the person writing would have "naturally" written those in?
It becomes less about what the person does or doesn't do, and more about what SE thinks the person THINKS. And I believe that's the problem.