A few tweaks, and this CoC change could be beneficial to numerous minority groups across SE
1. Am I forbidden to express my opinion about this?
... please take
special care and frame [objective answers] respectfully and politely — please be
aware that many things you might want to say may be extremely
distressing to some readers, and try to minimize that distress.
8. Isn't all this causing lots of inconvenience to everyone for the sake of a minority?
No. One thing is required of you: that when
someone states their pronouns you take notice and respect their
M1. I'm a moderator. What should I do if I see these rules being broken?
If someone makes an honest mistake, you could point it out
But if someone knows and is refusing to
[make an adjustment], treat this as you would any other case where someone is
deliberately breaking the CoC.
2. But the free choice of language is important to me. This rule impairs my freedom of speech.
By participating here you're agreeing to
treat others with politeness...
U2. I'm worried that I may get banned. Should I be?
Not if you're
acting in good faith...
This CoC change could be boiled down to locating bad actors, and dealing with them appropriately, while also asking our users to be polite and respectful when utilising this platform.
There was an anecdote I saw the other day about a uniform policy, whereby there were pages of banned items. A review happened and it was cut down to two words: "Dress appropriately".
The employees were free to manage their own dress code, felt less restricted, and it allowed the community to self-regulate - often bringing about the same result as when they were under the pages of rules.
I'd suggest that we increase the scope of this CoC change, opening up the community to be able to voice reasonable suggestions to other users to allow any user to feel welcome here.
My suggested amendments can be summed up to two points, and the points could be treated as complimentary to the FAQ (which is, in effect, a terser ruleset on how these points are enforced)
1. Presume Good Intent
Make the assumption that someone is meaning well, because the majority
of users are attempting to respond to your queries and feedback
politely. Correct them with that in mind (if you feel something needs to be said) and then move back on topic.
However, if you believe there is enough evidence to suggest that someone may be a bad actor (even in the first instance), flag the comment/post/question that
concerns you most and a moderator will review your feedback and take
2. Be Polite
Keep in mind that our users come from all over the globe and have many
different life experiences - not all of them good.
We'd like users to feel welcome here and as such, if a user requests
for a reasonable adjustment to be made to allow them to feel more
welcome, we ask that you try your best to accommodate the requested
If you aren't comfortable with making that change, try your best to
continue responding to that users points (keeping on topic) and take
appropriate steps if you feel like you can't do so in a respectful and
considerate manner (stop responding to that user and/or flag if there
is good reason to)
This will improve upon the original "assume good intent" that had previously been abused, and how the suggestion is worded, it could help the entire community, including lavender community, who (having been singled out by the changes) have been made targets by the last round of proposed changes.
It will be able to be used by people who are requesting that people be patient with their English, to those with autism who experience compulsive and repetitive behaviours that may be the reason they take a while to respond, and other minority groups who are not already catered for by the proposed changes, as well as being a sort of summary of the proposed changes.
It leaves enough open to interpretation to be useful to more than just one subsection of the community, restricts the abilities of bad actors to abuse the new rules, reiterates that individuals always have the right to remove themselves from a situation they no longer want to be part of or request aid from a moderator - reinforcing the idea that the community is trusted to make self-regulatory decisions in a fair way, and covers the communities that aren't already covered by this new CoC change.