Is there no means of notifying a user why their question is deleted? I just asked an honest and real question about the use of meta and the role of admins; when going to comment on an answer (a very good answer, I should add), I find that the question was deleted. Is there any way to find why my question was deleted?
...and then badger moderators into leaving comments prior to deletion.
I'm guessing that you know why its been deleted... The reality is we need to find a way for everyone in the community to get along or simply agree to disagree and remain respectful about it.
All sides need to be considerate and look/reflect inwards before pointing a finger at someone else... The rollback wars are typically caused by 2 people. If the author rolls it back, stop the war and flag the post if you feel strongly about it... Let the mods be mods...
Questions or answers that cause a lot of friction (as defined by downvotes, excessive comments, rude behavior, rollback/edit wars, etcetera) -- for whatever reason -- will be deleted.
There's no notification system for deletions.