This is a follow up to Can a user use neopronouns for any third party? where the community response has been "don't use neopronouns that are uncalled for".
It seems to me that certain people are treating the acceptance of neopronouns as novel:
new, original, especially in an interesting way
As such, they are experimenting with using neopronouns in places where a traditional pronoun would be called for. It also seems (although I could be wrong) that many of these users are not native English speakers, so are unaware of the sensitive cultural issues they have wandered into.
Comments from one chat thread:
I recently learned the neo-pronoun set that includes ee and eir.
That's what I was trying to do too. I was experimenting with a different set.
Are you saying that "eir" is not gender neutral? The person who taught it to me a couple days ago said that it was.
This user had apparently decided that they could use these pronouns for everyone after learning about them for the first time. Doing so is not using pronouns respectfully, although they may not have known this at the time. I have seen this in a number of places over the past few days, often in comments. These comments are quickly deleted, but I don't know if that's because a lot of comments in general are being deleted at the moment, or because the moderators perceive the usage of an incorrect pronoun as an issue.
How can we gently educate people (or make people aware if you prefer) when this happens across the SE network that neopronouns are not a game, but are one of the ways we show respect for other people, and that using a pronoun that was not called for is disrespectful?
I'm not asking about how we can comply with the letter of the CoC, but how we as the community want to handle this issue, to let people know that although they haven't yet gone against the CoC that they could do so inadvertently? Do we even want to warn people (and keep them in the community) or let them breach the CoC (and get rid of them)?