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Could we please be a bit nicer to the noobs?

I don't know if people had read the FAQ over at StackOverflow but, it really seems that people that are answering questions are extremely UPTIGHT. The things they say and do would never be done in real life. Some times it would be nice to be able to message people and let them know they are being a jerk, but they probably know that and just like being that way. But it makes it hard to be light-hearted in a conversation that you thought might have been a witty answer to a question. At my job no one would ever treat another coworker with the disrespect some of the community have treated me and some of the other users here at the site.

PM system? Something I would like to see. I guess I just missed the point of trying to be helpful and maybe sometimes a little silly, but I don't think users need to pour a big glass of haterade and be complete jerks to others.

Has anyone else been affected by this? My questions also seem to be bapped down because I may not be able to explain something 100% or sometimes not even 70~ It would be nice to get an answer than doesn't contain some kind of bitter sarcasm and elitist stench.

EDIT: scanf segfaults and various other anomalies inside while loop

This is my post, the second answer, really was not all that helpful. I didn't know about the flag button, I'll try that next time. I didn't really understand what it did.

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    Comment to your edit: You call that answer "extremely uptight"? Give me a break.
    – Daniel Daranas
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 17:56
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    While the question you reference ( stackoverflow.com/questions/2625834/… ) has an answer that is blunt, and more than a little RTFMy (which is strongly discouraged) it is not without merit, and the only problem I see with it is the implied RTFM.
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:01
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    Actually, I've seen Neil Butterworth writing... let's say, a lot more directly. And just because he's correct, but you feel offended by that, you want a PM system so you can shout at him?
    – balpha StaffMod
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:01
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    @balpha - Who hasn't wanted to shout at Neil from time to time? ;-P
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:02
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    Having read your question, the answers, and your responses, Neil's advice to read K&R is spot on - somewhere along the line you missed the difference between merely declaring a pointer and actually allocating storage. Don't shoot the messenger, pay heed to what he's telling you - if you graduate and get a job programming in C, this oversight will cause you - and your employer - no end of problems. ;-)
    – Steven A. Lowe
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:51
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    +1 for the word "haterade"
    – Randolpho
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:54
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    @Neil - If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck... Now if you quoted the relevant portions of that book, or explained your answer then an additional link to the book is fine. But with the terse explanation-less answer (ie, how does your answer help him understand his problem, not just solve it?) and the blatant reference to the manual, then yes - it looks an awful lot like an RTFM. But I don't think it's offensive. It simply could have been done better.
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 19:56
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    @Pollyanna I'm English, not American - terse is what we do. If the OP didn't like my style, or didn't find it helpful, well he could have ignored it, or even downvoted it. As could you, instead of posting comments about it here.
    – nb69307
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:10
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    @Neil, +1 for uncommon use of the race card
    – Pops
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:24
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    @Popular The culture card, I think. I've been accused of many things in my life (many of them justified), but never of racism.
    – nb69307
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:28
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    @Neil: this reads like a cop out. "Don't post comments here. I'm not from your country. I am different. You should ignore me when I offend you." I'm guessing that's not your intent. (And, certainly, I'm only saying how it reads to me.) Sure, you have the freedom to be as terse and pithy as you wanna be; on the other side of the coin it shouldn't be surprising when people get their hackles up on occasion.
    – beska
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:36
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    quack quack quack
    – Keng
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:50
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    Okay, Shadow, do you have any real examples of offensive postings?
    – David Thornley
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:06
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    @Shadow Everything I have "said!" to you on SO I would be quite happy saying to you face to face.
    – nb69307
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 22:14
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    It sounds to me like you could use a lot more criticism in your daily life. Coping with criticism is an important part of life.
    – GEOCHET
    Commented Jun 28, 2012 at 14:50

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Consider flagging such abuse for moderator attention. Those who consistently badger/berate/insult/annoy others will be contacted through the proper channels.

The last thing we need is a system where people can respond personally to attacks, which will also be abused to initiate private attacks on users.

Keep it all out in the open, let the mods know, and ignore the haters and trolls.

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    Thanks man. At least people on here have some courtesy.
    – Shadow
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 17:45
  • @Shadow @Polly dang it he is getting the wrong impression! Hurry @random!!
    – Earlz
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 19:15
  • Looks at "Pollyanna". Looks at "thanks, man". Looks at "Pollyanna". Shrugs.
    – Randolpho
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 19:15
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    @Randolpho: His name is Adam Davis. Check his associated accounts.
    – mmyers
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 19:35
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    @Randolpho - Yeah, I'm a guy. I changed my name on a whim to Pollyanna awhile ago because I never downvote, and now I'm just used to it. I suppose I'm just perpetuating rule #29 (all girls are men).
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 19:58
  • @mmyers, @Pollyanna: Hey, I don't judge. :p I just thought it was ironic, is all. At least I think that's classic-definition irony.
    – Randolpho
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:10
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    @Randolpho - This is meta. We're all about judging here. You pony hater.
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:24
  • All girls are men because the real women are hiding as cats.
    – Ether
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:54
  • @Ether - me ow!
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:59
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As I am I suppose the person the OP is referring to :

  • I answered his problem correctly
  • I suggested where he should look for further information, providing a link.

What else am I supposed to do?

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    Shoot him! Shoot him before you answer, then answer politely. And shoot him again, just to be sure.
    – Ladybug Killer
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 19:27
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    A short explanation would be a better answer than merely the code snip. "This is what you are attempting to do, this is what your code is currently doing, this is the code that does what you want to do and here's the difference." Your answer isn't bad, though, but it's useless to a beginner, and as good as K&R is, it's not easy to parse for a beginner - it was written for programmers and scientists.
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:00
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    @Pollyanna To quote the OP - "I understand creating a buffer. I work in industry and I am a graduating senior", so he is not a beginner. And as someone who has taught literally hundreds of people to program in C, I can assure you that very few of them have problems with TCPL.
    – nb69307
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:05
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    Yeah, Neil, you should have told him to look at the chapter on pointers. That would have shown him.
    – John Saunders
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:09
  • @Pollyanna: However, it's useful for the stated purpose of the question: to get a school assignment to work, that the OP never wants to see again. Take Neil's answer and plug in the obvious code change, compile, run the standard tests, hand in, and graduate.
    – David Thornley
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:03
  • @David - Yes, the answer was complete, and offered the needed solution. It wasn't a bad answer. Neil asked "What else am I supposed to do?" and I suggested an improvement, especially given that while this person may indeed be advanced, others that find this question through searching might not be, and could use a little more background. Nothing more.
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:21
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    But, quite frankly, the OP got 2 correct responses in under 3 minutes. It probably took them longer to write the question than it did to get an answer. They shouldn't be looking a gift horse in the mouth, IMHO.
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:25
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    @Pollyanna Yeah it did take me more than 3 minutes to write it :p And the other answers I got were awesome. So were the answers I got from my coworkers this morning.
    – Shadow
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 22:06
  • @David lol, that would have been easy, I was just rather upset by his lack of finesse. It's just too many times I have had to put up with snobby behavior and I decided to explode rather than handel it with finesse myself. Just thought I would have got a more thorough response from the users here that's all :)
    – Shadow
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 22:10
  • @Shadow - Isn't SO great? I love it to bits.
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 22:11
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    @Pollyanna @Shadow Sorry to but into your mutual admiration society, but there were only two answers.
    – nb69307
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 22:32
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I think the answer in the example you link to is a little bit short perhaps, but not disrespectful and certainly a far cry from having "bitter sarcasm and elitist stench."

Should we encourage people to be nicer on Stack Overflow? Yes, absolutely. Upvote the better answer. If you think an answer is unhelpful, that's exactly what the downvote button is for.

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    I could put up another of my examples, I was at work this morning and just a little angry with what I have been seeing. Granted I haven't been on very long but I am getting paid to read and respond to things in things in the community and don't want to waste my life with people who could have been nicer. I'll be down voting plenty next time someone is being a jerk. Thanks Bill and I do see your point!
    – Shadow
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:58
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Regarding the comments on this answer,

  • Who is taking whom too seriously?
  • Is it possible the other user was right?

The "problem" only arose when the other user saw through your comment (perhaps in a more poignant way than you could tolerate -- that, I think, is just his personality), as the claim in that comment would invalidate the point of asking the original question.

There's nothing wrong with being a beginner, or admitting to it. In fact, you did just that by asking the question in the first place. We were all beginners at some point. In fact, we are all beginners at something right now (I know I am). Don't be ashamed of it! The community is a vast wealth of knowledge at your fingertips if you assume an attitude of learning.

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As Polly mentioned, just flag it for moderator attention. Constructive criticism is supported, bile is not.

Haterade: Suck quencher http://img341.imageshack.us/img341/9215/hateradelogo.jpg

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    Have you seen the actual "example", now that he finally linked to one? Do you think "hateraid" can apply to that?
    – Daniel Daranas
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 17:58
  • @daniel those purple starfishes can sometimes be a bit ornery.
    – Jeff Atwood
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:11
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    Purple? He's clearly fuschia... er, fuchsia... um fyusha?... oh hell #FF00FF!
    – gnostradamus
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:46
  • If anyone is interested, the starfish is pinched from the very excellent (and open source) Scratch project at scratch.mit.edu
    – nb69307
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 19:57
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    I don't know about others, but while I thought the answer and followup comment came off as short, they didn't seem to warrent flagging as offensive, either. Slightly rude, depending on opinion...but not offensive. YMMV.
    – beska
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:42
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Bad Manners is the bane of the Internet.

StackOverflow is definitely better than most at keeping it tamped down.

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    This is very true. If this question had been asked on usenet.... whoa, I just felt chills up and down my spine...
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:03
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    sings - I've got chills! Their multiplyin', and I'm losin' control! 'cause the answers you're supplyin' - they're electrifyin!
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:05
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    AAAGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!
    – Lance Roberts
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:15
  • @Pollyanna: What song is that?
    – mmyers
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:17
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    @mmeyers, "You're The One That I Want" from Grease.
    – Lance Roberts
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:22
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    @Lance: Thanks. That explains why I don't remember it. (On a completely unrelated subject (your answer, actually), if the name-change restriction weren't in place I think I'd change my name to Bad Manners.)
    – mmyers
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 18:43
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Now we need a Silky Johnson badge....player hater badge...feature request?

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  • For whom?, if I may ask.
    – Daniel Daranas
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 20:45
  • @Daniel - For me, of course. /hangs head in shame
    – Pollyanna
    Commented Apr 13, 2010 at 21:22

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