Questions tagged [code-of-conduct]
Discussions of the Code of Conduct (CoC), the replacement/revision of the Be Nice policy.
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An apology to our community, and next steps
I’m David Fullerton, Stack Overflow’s CTO, responsible for the product, engineering, and community teams.
I joined Stack Overflow in 2010 because I believed in the vision and mission of Stack ...
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What does the Code of Conduct say about pronouns?
Please leave any feedback or questions about this FAQ on this other post.
Two weeks ago, we updated The Code of Conduct to directly address concerns over pronoun usage. We tried to anticipate likely ...
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Post for clarifications on the updated pronouns FAQ
Over the past week we've been busy reviewing our previous FAQ to directly address concerns over pronoun usage. We tried to anticipate likely questions, but… missed the mark a bit. Inspired by the ...
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SE Inc. Director of Public Q&A retweets bad-faith, misrepresentative tweet
As we all know, SE Inc. has engaged in highly problematic and widely criticized actions against the SE community and specific moderators.
Earlier today (Oct 11th, 2019), Ms. Sara Chipps, "...
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Summing up the main issues (The Story So Far)
Could we have a neutral summing up of the issues (without any editorializing)? I will attempt to do so in an answer, big picture style. Or you could think of this as "The Story So Far" for ...
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Updated comment flagging - Supporting the new Code of Conduct
We're no strangers to discussion of the flag dialogues, particularly when it comes to comment flags. Since that discussion two years ago we've been reassessing how comments are used on the network and ...
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We need "assume good intent" back in the Code of Conduct
At some point, "assume good intent" was removed from the Code of Conduct.
It's a key pillar of the social contract and how we choose to deal with each other. It belongs in the Code of ...
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The ship is sinking, but communication is down (need orders from the captain (CEO))
It looks like we have far more serious problems than just following the CoC in every thinkable correct way.
The engineer from the machine room reports to the bridge:
The ship is sinking. Give ...
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A Pronominal Proposal
The recent Code of Conduct change and, more specifically, the associated FAQ (now deleted; Wayback Machine copy here) have not gone down well. (For the avoidance of doubt, linking to those does not ...
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Why were the Code of Conduct changes received so negatively, and what can / could have been done to change that?
The announcement of the Code of Conduct changes had a score of -1922 (with 2371 downvotes). I can't remember a change announcement being received so negatively; it's an order of magnitude higher than (...
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Are there specific issues with unwelcoming behavior toward LGBTQ persons on Stack Exchange?
Ever since the mass moderator resignations started, there have been hints that it is somehow related to how LGBTQ members of the community are or should be treated or welcomed. For example, in her ...
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The second draft of our Code of Conduct is available for feedback and review
You provided us with some really helpful feedback on our first draft attempt to expand our 'Be nice' policy into a formal code of conduct, and we're extremely grateful for your time, patience and ...
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We'd like your feedback on our new Code of Conduct! [duplicate]
TL;DR: We've put together a code of conduct (CoC) that is a bit more comprehensive than our existing be nice policy because we feel that our current policy isn't meeting our needs.
Some background, ...
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I am non-binary - recent events have made SE less safe for me (and other members of the LGBTQ community)
I am a member of the network and posting anonymously for my safety.
CW: References to and examples of hate speech
I don't want to put blame anywhere, but unfortunately due to the huge turmoil ...
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Why taking responsibility for other people's feelings doesn't work
The whole kerfluffle around pronouns centers around a singular premise. This premise was first asserted in the "Stack Overflow is Not Very Welcoming, it's Time for That to Change" blog post:
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Allow Monica to have a structured conversation (à la mediation) with SE leadership
I read a recent comment by Monica Cellio that said
perhaps an actual conversation between a person in authority and Monica would be a good first step. SE isn't taking my calls; I can't initiate that. ...
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Neopronouns or trolling?
It’s the 112 rep question: Am I looking at someone’s legitimate pronouns or trolling?
(It’s unfortunate I have to ask, but this is just where we are right now.)
I’ve seen “my pronouns are [insert ...
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Proposed new code of conduct for all Stack Exchange sites
UPDATE: We've incorporated lots of the feedback below into what we think is a much better version than the one we proposed originally. Thanks a ton for all the input, and let us know if you like the ...
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Why was the previous Code of Conduct FAQ (and all answers) removed?
I noticed that the original-now-replaced CoC FAQ was deleted.
When the new CoC FAQ came out, I tried to look for my old answer as well as others for comparison. Why not just mark the old one ...
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How can the community assist in welcoming LGBTQ users?
This is a followup to my question Are there specific issues with unwelcoming behavior toward LGBTQ persons on Stack Exchange? . StrongBad, in a comment replying to one of my comments, suggested that I ...
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Did anyone consider the impact on autistics of recent Code of Conduct changes?
From the answers I see on Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes it seems like a lot of people are unhappy because they can't follow the grammar rules they learned back in English ...
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How often is gender actually used in comments?
Given the new CoC changes, it's clear that StackExchange the company wants to make a Big Deal of gendered language.
So, out of curiosity, how much will this actually affect? What percentage of ...
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Define "gender-neutral language"? (CoC FAQ)
From the FAQ regarding the new CoC
Q6: What should I do if I don't know someone's pronouns?
When in doubt, use gender-neutral language or refer to the user by name.
What is "gender-neutral ...
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Does Stack Exchange, Inc. really care about the LGBTQ+ community?
Does Stack Exchange, Inc. really care about us? Because it doesn't feel like that.
Meta is burning with hatred and heinous speech and SE Inc. is nowhere to be seen.
Sure, they made a post that ...
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We are updating our Code of Conduct and we would like your feedback
Update, May 31st, 2023: The updated code of conduct has been released network-wide.
A good Code of Conduct is a handshake agreement between users and the company. It is a document that inspires trust ...
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What did Monica do to violate the CoC?
According to SO, they
removed a moderator for repeatedly violating our existing Code of Conduct and being unwilling to accept our CM’s repeated requests to change that behavior.
As Monica says,
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Open hostility from SE staff towards the community - trying to understand it
Upon multiple occasions SE staff members have expressed open hostility towards the community as a whole, as well as towards specific members of the community. Specific references are avoided here ...
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How to disentangle the CoC discussion from the Monica issue?
The last question in the unofficial and awesome Pronominal Proposal is
Q30. I heard that someone was removed as a moderator for
pronoun-related behaviour that seems, according to the above, as if
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Is uncited LLM usage considered a CoC violation under the Inauthentic Usage policy?
In the new CoC, there's an Inauthentic Usage policy that prohibits "Plagiarizing or copying content from websites, books, or other online and offline tools without proper attribution in a manner ...
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How many more casualties in the war on pronouns? [duplicate]
I've been reading posts and comments all over the network for many years and never felt like I need to register. I've also been watching what's going on here since the pronoun-crisis broke out and I ...
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Policing gender expressions and pronouns
The current FAQ on pronouns says the following:
8. What if someone wants to be referred to as "the Great and Mighty One" or by an obscenity or something?
If something is obviously unreasonable ...
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Was Monica's firing intended to "disrupt the status quo"? [closed]
After following this from a distance for a while, I came across a fascinating comment:
Interestingly, the entire genesis of this (at least publicly) was discussed at 32:00m on the #causeascene ...
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What is Stack Exchange's official stance on words such as "black list", "white list", "master", "slave", and so on?
I've just had one of my answers edited on Stack Overflow to swap out "black list" and "white list" for "deny list" and "allow list" respectively. There was no ...
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How can one appropriately and constructively criticize or complain about a Stack Exchange employee on Meta Stack Exchange?
Related: Is this an appropriate place to call for the resignation of an SO employee?
In an answer to the question above, Shog9 ♦ mentioned that calling for a staff member's immediate removal can be ...
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Are there any objections to using singular they for everyone?
Disclaimer:
I am in no way part of any under-represented group, quite the contrary, so if anyone feels that I am out of place with this suggestion please let me know.
Of what we can piece together ...
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Checking in with the Lavender community
Lavender mods had written a letter to SE pertaining to their issues. They asked roughly for three things:
Pay attention to the complaints by LGBTQ+ users about disrespect
Consequences for ...
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How can we improve the inconsistent tagging of the questions relating to the recent uproar and associated issues?
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There are many questions (~250 in the last five weeks) relating to
Firing mods and forced relicensing: is Stack Exchange still interested in cooperating with the community?
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Stack Exchange should show rules on the right side when making post to help users follow the rules
When making posts on Stack Overflow or Stack Exchange, you can see on the right side "Draft Your Question" and "Helpful Links." While the latter contains links for asking good ...
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Is SE still safe for queer/trans folks? [duplicate]
Regarding the firestorm that was Monica's firing, mods resigning, SE non-apologizing, then backpedaling, then apologizing, then putting out the wildly negatively received FAQ on the new CoC regarding ...
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Is there a list of non-moderators who have stated they suspended activities due to recent events? [closed]
There are lists of moderators that have resigned or suspended activity due to the series of events1 instigated by Stack Exchange starting September 5, 2019, but I've only seen speculation on the ...
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Feature request: Add pronouns to usercards? [duplicate]
One of the questions people have raised about the new rules about pronouns is how users will know what pronouns are preferred.
We've had a trolling question which got quite an edit history when the ...
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Responding to the Lavender Letter and commitments moving forward
I want to start by acknowledging the hurt and exhaustion that the members of the LGBTQIA+ community and their allies have experienced in our community as moderators and users. We have read the ...
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Why haven't the statements to the Register been retracted?
Why haven't the statements made by the Stack Exchange director of community:
In response to an email from The Register, Stack Exchange director of
community Sara Chipps said, "On Friday, we ...
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Please give moderators better tools to understand the interactions between two users
With the recent Code of Conduct changes (see the blog post, the FAQ), and even before this round of changes, there has been an increased attention on users interacting respectfully with each other. ...
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Could you tell me what was rude about my answer and how I can avoid making the same mistake in future?
Yesterday, I posted a now deleted answer to Does Stack Exchange, Inc. really care about the LGBTQ+ community?. It has been removed by the Community user with a penalty of loosing 100 rep which ...
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Is the current outrage by the long time community contributors really about pronouns/trans people/Monica? [closed]
This question has nothing to do with whether or not SE wants to fix
things or engage with the community, the answers to that are already
known: ‘nothing to fix’ and ‘no’. This is about the origins ...
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Fewer Words, not More!
All the guidance that a self moderated community should need:
Be respectful.
With the instructions to the elected moderators on enforcement, use your best judgment.
This is respectful to the ...
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Could we get some troll fencing up around meta?
While I'm a fan of "Presume good intent" it seems unusual to see folks whose entire interest here is in how the CoC is enforced - one rep users with no accounts elsewhere.
I'm noticing some patterns ...
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How could I have handled this better in chat (flag apparently led to suspension)? [closed]
I was recently suspended in chat here on Meta.SE. I would like to know how I could have handled this situation better and how I could have avoided a suspension.
Link to transcript:
https://chat.meta....
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Focusing on race, gender and sexuality makes minorities feel exposed and unwelcome
Before the Code of Conduct debacle, I never felt like a member of a minority. I was just a developer asking and answering questions. Now I feel pressured to come out of closet and announce every ...
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