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Discussions of the Code of Conduct (CoC), the replacement/revision of the Be Nice policy.

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SE Inc. Director of Public Q&A retweets bad-faith, misrepresentative tweet

As we all know, SE Inc. has engaged in highly problematic and widely criticized actions against the SE community and specific moderators. Earlier today (Oct 11th, 2019), Ms. Sara Chipps, "Director ...
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We need “assume good intent” back in the Code of Conduct

AT some point - "assume good intent" was removed from the CoC. It's a key pillar of the social contract and how we choose to deal with each other. It belongs in the Code of Conduct. PLEASE add this ...
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Why taking responsibility for other people's feelings doesn't work

The whole kerfluffle around pronouns centers around a singular premise. This premise was first asserted in the "Stack Overflow is Not Very Welcoming, it's Time for That to Change" blog post: Too ...
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Proposed new code of conduct for all Stack Exchange sites

UPDATE: We've incorporated lots of the feedback below into what we think is a much better version than the one we proposed originally. Thanks a ton for all the input, and let us know if you like the ...
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A Pronominal Proposal

The recent Code of Conduct change and, more specifically, the associated FAQ (now deleted; Wayback Machine copy here) have not gone down well. (For the avoidance of doubt, linking to those does not ...
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Bye Stack Exchange, I'm done. Coerced speech is incompatible with freedom

From your official FAQ (now deleted and replaced, see update below) about the Code of Conduct revisions (I've bolded the parts that I find objectionable): Q9: Do I have to use pronouns I’m ...
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What did Monica do to violate the CoC?

According to SO, they removed a moderator for repeatedly violating our existing Code of Conduct and being unwilling to accept our CM’s repeated requests to change that behavior. As Monica says, ...
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Why was the previous Code of Conduct FAQ (and all answers) removed?

I noticed that the original-now-replaced CoC FAQ was deleted. When the new CoC FAQ came out, I tried to look for my old answer as well as others for comparison. Why not just mark the old one ...
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Why haven't the statements to the Register been retracted?

Why haven't the statements made by the Stack Exchange director of community: In response to an email from The Register, Stack Exchange director of community Sara Chipps said, "On Friday, we ...
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Why are the Code of Conduct changes received so negatively, and what can / could have been done to change that?

The announcement of the Code of Conduct changes (now deleted, alternative link) had a score of -1922 (with 2371 downvotes). I can't remember a change announcement being received so negatively (this ...
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Summing up the main issues (The Story So Far)

Could we have a neutral summing up of the issues (without any editorializing)? I will attempt to do so in an answer, big picture style. Or you could think of this as "The Story So Far" for those who ...
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I am non-binary - recent events have made SE less safe for me (and other members of the LGBTQ community)

I am a member of the network and posting anonymously for my safety. CW: References to and examples of hate speech I don't want to put blame anywhere, but unfortunately due to the huge turmoil ...
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The ship is sinking, but communication is down (need orders from the captain (CEO))

It looks like we have far more serious problems than just following the CoC in every thinkable correct way. The engineer from the machine room reports to the bridge: The ship is sinking. Give ...
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Open hostility from SE staff towards the community - trying to understand it

Upon multiple occasions SE staff members have expressed open hostility towards the community as a whole, as well as towards specific members of the community. Specific references are avoided here ...
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Focusing on race, gender and sexuality makes minorities feel exposed and unwelcome

Before the Code of Conduct debacle, I never felt like a member of a minority. I was just a developer asking and answering questions. Now I feel pressured to come out of closet and announce every ...
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What is so bad about “Nancy”?

This question on MSO got a terrible edit war. The OP told a story with somebody called Nancy. For some reason, I don't know which, there was very some vital need to hide/obfuscate/censor the name or ...
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We'd like your feedback on our new Code of Conduct! [duplicate]

TL;DR: We've put together a code of conduct (CoC) that is a bit more comprehensive than our existing be nice policy because we feel that our current policy isn't meeting our needs. Some ...
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Are there specific issues with unwelcoming behavior toward LGBTQ persons on Stack Exchange?

Ever since the mass moderator resignations started, there have been hints that it is somehow related to how LGBTQ members of the community are or should be treated or welcomed. For example, in her ...
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How is the CoC about to change? [duplicate]

In this discussion, ex-moderator Monica Cellio describes a change to the Code of Conduct: A director had dropped into the room to announce an upcoming change to the Code of Conduct; unlike the rest ...
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Allow Monica to have a structured conversation (à la mediation) with SE leadership

I read a recent comment by Monica Cellio that said perhaps an actual conversation between a person in authority and Monica would be a good first step. SE isn't taking my calls; I can't initiate ...
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The second draft of our Code of Conduct is available for feedback and review

You provided us with some really helpful feedback on our first draft attempt to expand our 'Be nice' policy into a formal code of conduct, and we're extremely grateful for your time, patience and ...
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How many more casualties in the war on pronouns? [duplicate]

I've been reading posts and comments all over the network for many years and never felt like I need to register. I've also been watching what's going on here since the pronoun-crisis broke out and I ...
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Neopronouns or trolling?

It’s the 112 rep question: Am I looking at someone’s legitimate pronouns or trolling? (It’s unfortunate I have to ask, but this is just where we are right now.) I’ve seen “my pronouns are [insert ...
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An evidence based appeal for gender neutrality in the Code of Conduct

This is simply a request to allow they, them, or their, or silence, despite the insistence from SE that they or silence is a form of misgendering, and to remove that idea as a violation of the new ...
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Does the community consider the “coerced speech” complaint largely resolved?

An objection to the original (now-deleted) pronoun-related FAQ was in regards to coerced speech. See for example Bye Stack Exchange, I'm done. Coerced speech is incompatible with freedom. From ...
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Policing gender expressions and pronouns

The current FAQ on pronouns says the following: 8. What if someone wants to be referred to as "the Great and Mighty One" or by an obscenity or something? If something is obviously unreasonable ...
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What is on the mind of Stack Exchange management?

I can understand that as a for-profit and venture backed corporate entity, Stack Overflow Inc. has to make money and/or make a nice exit, even if it means ... antagonizing the very community that ...
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How can the community assist in welcoming LGBTQ users?

This is a followup to my question Are there specific issues with unwelcoming behavior toward LGBTQ persons on Stack Exchange? . StrongBad, in a comment replying to one of my comments, suggested that I ...
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Was Monica's firing intended to “disrupt the status quo”? [closed]

After following this from a distance for a while, I came across a fascinating comment: Interestingly, the entire genesis of this (at least publicly) was discussed at 32:00m on the #causeascene ...
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Do we have a problem with hostile moderator resignation posts?

In a recent answer, Juan M ♦ mentioned that: Lately, we have had an increase of resignation posts that have served to host combative and hurtful words to attack Stack employees, other mods, and ...
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What does the Code of Conduct say about pronouns?

Please leave any feedback or questions about this FAQ on this other post. Two weeks ago, we updated The Code of Conduct to directly address concerns over pronoun usage. We tried to anticipate likely ...
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Did anyone consider the impact on autistics of recent Code of Conduct changes?

From the answers I see on Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes it seems like a lot of people are unhappy because they can't follow the grammar rules they learned back in English ...
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Updated comment flagging - Supporting the new Code of Conduct

We're no strangers to discussion of the flag dialogues, particularly when it comes to comment flags. Since that discussion two years ago we've been reassessing how comments are used on the network and ...
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How often is gender actually used in comments?

Given the new CoC changes, it's clear that StackExchange the company wants to make a Big Deal of gendered language. So, out of curiosity, how much will this actually affect? What percentage of ...
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How should I deal with the new CoC as non-native English speaker?

I'm not a native English speaker. And I'm on the autistic spectrum. In the last few weeks, I did watch the events around the termination of Monica Cellio unfold. I said nothing. I did read about the ...
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Avoid “shipping” news on a Friday evening

We learned (or were painfully reminded, rather) to never ship at 6 PM (EDT) on a Friday. We didn’t follow that rule last week and as a result there was a lot of confusion over the weekend. Even more, ...
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Link to code of conduct broken?

The recent blog post "Get to Know Our New Code of Conduct" contains a link to the new code of conduct, https://stackoverflow.com/conduct. As of 2018-08-07T05:27:38+00, that link returns a 404. Also, ...
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How can the prohibition on pronoun avoidance possibly be enforced?

I also want to know...from our LGBTQ users--are you offended when the person just doesn't include a pronoun at all? Because rules like this are FOR the people they might hurt. When a gender-neutral ...
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How can SE and community improve respecting feelings of mentally ill people and their relatives/friends?

There was a (now deleted) question on MSO about freezing the meta room (10k link). The answer was that nasty things were said there, now the nastiness got cleared and the room was unfrozen when heads ...
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Why was “Be kind and friendly” removed from the code of conduct?

The latest revision of the Code of Conduct removes the phrase “Be kind and friendly" entirely. What was the rationale?
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Can we disappear from this site, or will there be a policy update preventing SE employees from talking about us to the media?

Please give us the ability to delete our data and disappear from this site. You scare me. Edit: It's not enough to simply delete my account. The anonymous scrubbing of names is good, but I want any ...
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How to disentangle the CoC discussion from the Monica issue?

The last question in the unofficial and awesome Pronominal Proposal is Q30. I heard that someone was removed as a moderator for pronoun-related behaviour that seems, according to the above, as if ...
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So disappointed to see the fall out this week

I stepped down as moderator on Stack Overflow 10 days ago. There were many reasons, mainly tiredness and being time poor, if I'm to be honest with myself. Participating on this network has always ...
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How can one appropriately and constructively criticize or complain about a Stack Exchange employee on Meta Stack Exchange?

Related: Is this an appropriate place to call for the resignation of an SO employee? In an answer to the question above, Shog9 ♦ mentioned that calling for a staff member's immediate removal can be ...
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Is posting a screenshot of a deleted post against the rules?

A moderator recently commented, As an aside. Sigh Posting screenshots of deleted stuff is not ok. A link would do just as well, as the pertinent details. You'd get your answer anyway – Journeyman ...
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Can a user use neopronouns for any third party?

I came across a post that used a neopronoun for a group of people that, as far as I'm aware, has not expressed a desire to be known by a neopronoun (and would not as far as I can tell). Illustrative ...
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How should the new pronoun policy be applied to Spanish language?

For Spanish speaking users is not so simple. We don't have "he" or "she", we have programadores y programadoras, arquitectos y arquitectas, .... We finish by using only masculine terms, because if ...
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Changing the Code of Conduct to be more inclusive

I assume that Stack Exchange made its recent changes to the Code of Conduct in good faith and did not see that they were not as inclusive as they thought. That is reasonable; everyone has blind spots. ...
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Please give moderators better tools to understand the interactions between two users

With the recent Code of Conduct changes (see the blog post, the FAQ), and even before this round of changes, there has been an increased attention on users interacting respectfully with each other. ...
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What, if anything, can SE do to resolve the ongoing conflict in a timely way?

Back in late September, at the inception of the current mess, I was under the impression that if SE had immediately reinstated Monica and withdrawn the new CoC, the furious atmosphere would have ...