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Discussions of the Code of Conduct (CoC), the replacement/revision of the Be Nice policy.

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A storm in a teacup, please calm down

Dear friends across the Stack Exchange network. Can we please calm down a bit about the Code of Conduct update? Currently the Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes has 424 ...
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An Update to our Community and an Apology

Last week we made an important decision for our community. We removed a moderator for repeatedly violating our existing Code of Conduct and being unwilling to accept our CM’s repeated requests to ...
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So disappointed to see the fall out this week

I stepped down as moderator on Stack Overflow 10 days ago. There were many reasons, mainly tiredness and being time poor, if I'm to be honest with myself. Participating on this network has always ...
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Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes

We expect today’s changes to the Code of Conduct to generate a lot of questions. We’ve tried to anticipate some of the most common questions people may have here, and we’ll be adding to this list as ...
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How to disentangle the CoC discussion from the Monica issue?

The last question in the unofficial and awesome Pronominal Proposal is Q30. I heard that someone was removed as a moderator for pronoun-related behaviour that seems, according to the above, as if ...
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Why taking responsibility for other people's feelings doesn't work

The whole kerfluffle around pronouns centers around a singular premise. This premise was first asserted in the "Stack Overflow is Not Very Welcoming, it's Time for That to Change" blog post: Too ...
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Can the official FAQ be changed slightly with respect to editing old posts?

In the past, we’ve had some drama about what a substantial edit to a post is. The new FAQ has this section: If you are writing or editing a post and can make it gender-inclusive without changing ...
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Fewer Words, not More!

All the guidance that a self moderated community should need: Be respectful. With the instructions to the elected moderators on enforcement, use your best judgment. This is respectful to the ...
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A Pronominal Proposal

The recent Code of Conduct change and, more specifically, the associated FAQ have not gone down well. (For the avoidance of doubt, linking to those does not constitute endorsement.) So of course I ...
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Neopronouns or trolling?

It’s the 112 rep question: Am I looking at someone’s legitimate pronouns or trolling? (It’s unfortunate I have to ask, but this is just where we are right now.) I’ve seen “my pronouns are [insert ...
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I am non-binary - recent events have made SE less safe for me (and other members of the LGBTQ community)

I am a member of the network and posting anonymously for my safety. CW: References to and examples of hate speech I don't want to put blame anywhere, but unfortunately due to the huge turmoil ...
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An evidence based appeal for gender neutrality in the Code of Conduct

This is simply a request to allow they, them, or their, or silence, despite the insistence from SE that they or silence is a form of misgendering, and to remove that idea as a violation of the new ...
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Be dispassionate? [on hold]

When I first came to Stack, it was a terrifying place (much akin to NYC in the late 1970's;) So I think the mandate to "be nice" (kindness, charity, patience) has been enormously beneficial. It's ...
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We need “assume good intent” back in the Code of Conduct

AT some point - "assume good intent" was removed from the CoC. It's a key pillar of the social contract and how we choose to deal with each other. It belongs in the Code of Conduct. PLEASE add this ...
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An apology to our community, and next steps

I’m David Fullerton, Stack Overflow’s CTO, responsible for the product, engineering, and community teams. I joined Stack Overflow in 2010 because I believed in the vision and mission of Stack ...
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What is so bad about Nancy?

This question on MSO got a terrible edit war. The OP told a story with somebody called Nancy. For some reason, I don't know which, there was very some vital need to hide/obfuscate/censor the name or ...
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Changing the Code of Conduct to be more inclusive

I assume that Stack Exchange made its recent changes to the Code of Conduct in good faith and did not see that they were not as inclusive as they thought. That is reasonable; everyone has blind spots. ...
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Could you tell me what was rude about my answer and how I can avoid making the same mistake in future?

Yesterday, I posted a now deleted answer to Does Stack Exchange, Inc. really care about the LGBTQ+ community?. It has been removed by the Community user with a penalty of loosing 100 rep which ...
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Is the usage of 'folks' mandated by policy?

(Edit - This seems to be a polarising question, with equal votes both up and down (currently 16-16). I am beginning to suspect that in the US this may seem a sarcastic question, since 'folks' is in ...
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Are there any objections to using singular they for everyone?

Disclaimer: I am in no way part of any under-represented group, quite the contrary, so if anyone feels that I am out of place with this suggestion please let me know. Of what we can piece together ...
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Should neopronoun be encouraged to use in Stack Exchange? [duplicate]

For so long I have wished that English has a singular gender-neutral pronoun that isn't "they". After the push on Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes, do you think we should ...
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Can we disappear from this site, or will there be a policy update preventing SE employees from talking about us to the media?

Please give us the ability to delete our data and disappear from this site. You scare me. Edit: It's not enough to simply delete my account. The anonymous scrubbing of names is good, but I want any ...
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Allow Monica to have a structured conversation (à la mediation) with SE leadership

I read a recent comment by Monica Cellio that said perhaps an actual conversation between a person in authority and Monica would be a good first step. SE isn't taking my calls; I can't initiate ...
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Summing up the main issues (The Story So Far)

Could we have a neutral summing up of the issues (without any editorializing)? I will attempt to do so in an answer, big picture style. Or you could think of this as "The Story So Far" for those who ...
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Why are the Code of Conduct changes received so negatively, and what can / could have been done to change that?

The announcement of the Code of Conduct changes is sitting now, three days after being posted, on a score of -916 (with 1180 downvotes). I can't remember a change announcement being received so ...
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What is Stack Exchange going to do to prevent further weaponization of the Code of Conduct? [on hold]

This is not about moderators, this is about the general community members being a victim of weaponization of the CoC by other general community members. This question is NOT about pronouns or any ...
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Would opponents of compelled speech accept this policy instead? [on hold]

Would the following still be an example of compelled speech? Let us hypothetically entertain the notion of the following scenario. What if StackOverflow said that you do not have to use another ...
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Does Stack Exchange, Inc. really care about the LGBTQ+ community?

Does Stack Exchange, Inc. really care about us? Because it doesn't feel like that. Meta is burning with hatred and heinous speech and SE Inc. is nowhere to be seen. Sure, they made a post that ...
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Does the company want to enforce CoC irrespective of the backlash it received?

It has been a week since Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes is announced and made faq immmediately. Since it is posted, it received a major backlash. It stands as 378/1976 as ...
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Is the current outrage by the long time community contributors really about pronouns/trans people/Monica? [on hold]

This question has nothing to do with whether or not SE wants to fix things or engage with the community, the answers to that are already known: ‘nothing to fix’ and ‘no’. This is about the origins ...
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Did anyone consider the impact on autistics of recent Code of Conduct changes?

From the answers I see on Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes it seems like a lot of people are unhappy because they can't follow the grammar rules they learned back in English ...
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How should we refer to members of the SE network in a neutral way, and will we be punished for remaining neutral for all reasons?

According to the new CoC: Q9: Do I have to use pronouns I’m unfamiliar or uncomfortable with (e.g., neopronouns like xe, zir, ne... )? Yes, if those are stated by the individual. Q10: ...
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What did Monica do to violate the CoC?

According to SO, they removed a moderator for repeatedly violating our existing Code of Conduct and being unwilling to accept our CM’s repeated requests to change that behavior. As Monica says, [...
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Do you think it's right to stymie opinions on important topics? [on hold]

Just to be clear, I'm explicitly referring to the "Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes". I think disallowing the association bonus is a bad choice. I read and answer across ...
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Could we get some troll fencing up around meta?

While I'm a fan of "Presume good intent" it seems unusual to see folks whose entire interest here is in how the CoC is enforced - one rep users with no accounts elsewhere. I'm noticing some patterns ...
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How many more casualties in the war on pronouns? [duplicate]

I've been reading posts and comments all over the network for many years and never felt like I need to register. I've also been watching what's going on here since the pronoun-crisis broke out and I ...
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How can SE and community improve respecting feelings of mentally ill people and their relatives/friends?

There was a (now deleted) question on MSO about freezing the meta room (10k link). The answer was that nasty things were said there, now the nastiness got cleared and the room was unfrozen when heads ...
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I have a mental health issue and it affects my participation on the site

I've been a regular on the site for some time now and am reluctant to come forward with this post, as I'm scared of the repercussions to my professional life. Suffice to say I'm well known, please do ...
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How can the prohibition on pronoun avoidance possibly be enforced?

I also want to know...from our LGBTQ users--are you offended when the person just doesn't include a pronoun at all? Because rules like this are FOR the people they might hurt. When a gender-neutral ...
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How should pronoun-only edits be handled?

Currently there are multiple posts on main page bumped up by edit saying My pronouns are He / Him I just answered on one of them before looking at the date it was asked - no changes since 2015 ...
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Are there specific issues with unwelcoming behavior toward LGBTQ persons on Stack Exchange?

Ever since the mass moderator resignations started, there have been hints that it is somehow related to how LGBTQ members of the community are or should be treated or welcomed. For example, in her ...
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Is the updated pronoun guidance in any way related to the New York City Human Rights law on preferred pronouns?

According to the New York City Human Rights Law, employers and other entities are required to use pronouns with which a person self-identifies, including singular they or neopronouns: The NYCHRL ...
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Things you Should Never Do, Part I, or Iterating on Inclusion - so why stage a Revolution? [closed]

This may be a bit weird, but I voted to close my own question and I'm grateful to the other 4 of you — Yvette (she), Beloved Fool (they), Sonic (?), and Robert (I'm guessing he) — who ...
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The ship is sinking, but communication is down (need orders from the captain (CEO))

It looks like we have far more serious problems than just following the CoC in every thinkable correct way. The engineer from the machine room reports to the bridge: The ship is sinking. Give ...
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How does the new CoC apply to second-person pronouns?

There has been vigorous discussion here on meta about the new Code of Conduct and its requirements regarding pronouns. The discussion has been exclusive to third-person singular pronouns, but nothing ...
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Open hostility from SE staff towards the community - trying to understand it

Upon multiple occasions SE staff members have expressed open hostility towards the community as a whole, as well as towards specific members of the community. Specific references are avoided here ...
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Why was “Be kind and friendly” removed from the code of conduct?

The latest revision of the Code of Conduct removes the phrase “Be kind and friendly" entirely. What was the rationale?
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How should I deal with the new CoC as non-native English speaker?

I'm not a native English speaker. And I'm on the autistic spectrum. In the last few weeks, I did watch the events around the termination of Monica Cellio unfold. I said nothing. I did read about the ...
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No email acknowledgement for reporting CoC violation via web site

I reported a code of conduct violation on Sunday evening (Sydney time) via the web site, as I wanted to check how the website works for non-users. It’s now Tuesday morning, and I haven’t received an ...
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Bye Stack Exchange, I'm done. Coerced speech is incompatible with freedom

From your official FAQ about the Code of Conduct revisions (I've bolded the parts that I find objectionable): Q9: Do I have to use pronouns I’m unfamiliar or uncomfortable with (e.g., neopronouns ...