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Discussions of the Code of Conduct (CoC), the replacement/revision of the Be Nice policy.

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How to disentangle the CoC discussion from the Monica issue?

The last question in the unofficial and awesome Pronominal Proposal is Q30. I heard that someone was removed as a moderator for pronoun-related behaviour that seems, according to the above, as if ...
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Is SE still safe for queer/trans folks? [duplicate]

Regarding the firestorm that was Monica's firing, mods resigning, SE non-apologizing, then backpedaling, then apologizing, then putting out the wildly negatively received FAQ on the new CoC regarding ...
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Neopronouns: please be lenient with users who are not native English speakers

While the SE network is mostly in English, the community is made up of people from all over the world, a majority of whom are not native English speakers. It is always a struggle to learn a foreign ...
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How best to find all my own posts where I employ pronouns?

Using the Stack Exchange Data Explorer (SEDE), Google, or another tool, how can I search for posts, comments, and other content I've written over the last 11 years for common English pronouns? ...
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Should we just impose a blanket ban on identity politics? [closed]

After looking at this whole CoC war and all of the backlash on other tech communities with similar ones, it seems that bringing identity politics into discussions and policy decisions is a major flash ...
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Does some kind of middle ground exist regarding the CoC for a moderator who might need to avoid singular 'they' for personal reasons?

Let's suppose that we have a moderator who is willing to use any pronoun made available to their attention, including neopronouns, except the pronoun "they". Does this stance constitute a violation ...
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Checking in with the Lavender community

Lavender mods had written a letter to SE pertaining to their issues. They asked roughly for three things: Pay attention to the complaints by LGBTQ+ users about disrespect Consequences for ...
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Are SE staff open to dialogue and find a different solution about gender pronouns? [duplicate]

The new CoC is now in effect. And it includes the new gender pronouns aspect. But many users (like me) are more than sure that the feeling of one group cannot prevail over others. One mod has been ...
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What does ɴᴏᴛ count as a “neopronoun”? [duplicate]

Recently I have come across the curious neologism neopronouns. I have a lifelong interest in languages and linguistics, but this is a new concept for me. Prior to a month or so ago I had never heard ...
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How can we mitigate the difficulties some autistic users have with pronouns?

A subset of autistic users has reported that they are not always able to use the pronouns that another user requests. The problem The current Code of Conduct is clear on this matter: Using stated ...
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Is it ok to call a question silly?

The latest CoC at the time of writing states the following. I feel the example violates all three sentences. Whether you’ve come to ask questions or to generously share what you know, join us in ...
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A Pronominal Proposal

The recent Code of Conduct change and, more specifically, the associated FAQ (now deleted; Wayback Machine copy here) have not gone down well. (For the avoidance of doubt, linking to those does not ...
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I am non-binary - recent events have made SE less safe for me (and other members of the LGBTQ community)

I am a member of the network and posting anonymously for my safety. CW: References to and examples of hate speech I don't want to put blame anywhere, but unfortunately due to the huge turmoil ...
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How can one appropriately and constructively criticize or complain about a Stack Exchange employee on Meta Stack Exchange?

Related: Is this an appropriate place to call for the resignation of an SO employee? In an answer to the question above, Shog9 ♦ mentioned that calling for a staff member's immediate removal can be ...
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How can I find posts in response to my posts that use pronouns?

I expect this can only be accomplished using data explorer, but I would like to find comments and answers in response to my content which use pronouns to refer to me. How do I search for specific ...
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What is so bad about “Nancy”?

This question on MSO got a terrible edit war. The OP told a story with somebody called Nancy. For some reason, I don't know which, there was very some vital need to hide/obfuscate/censor the name or ...
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Stack Overflow has engaged in ideological censorship and unwelcoming behavior

What happened? On April 10, 2019, a user posted a response to a Meta question discussing how SO might take action in response to the gender disparity in the programming industry. The post essentially ...
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How should I refer to the OP?

Numerous times I want to refer to the OP, and I found myself writing (s)he or his/her. What is the right way to do so? Maybe the answer is that I should continue using the (s)he, but it would be ...
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If someone is hurt by a literary reference, should it be removed?

Today I submitted an answer supporting Monica, using a reference to a famous short poem First they came .... The reference itself incurred quite some dispute that drove me into asking this question. ...
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Why does Stack Overflow seem to be less welcoming to its top contributors?

Note: by contribution I mean all effort put into growing the community starting from useful edits and ending in moderation The recent events that involved lots of moderators leaving as a protest made ...
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Is peer-accountability permitted on meta.stackexchange?

StackExchange grants users the ability to use "Contact Us" at the bottom of the page to report issues with Moderators. I don't see a rule prohibiting questioning a mod's actions here. I have one ...
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Rename the Teachers' Lounge [closed]

I've always found the name of the Teachers' Lounge to be mildly condescending, as if those who inhabit it see themselves as holding a superior position over the common users. This isn't what was ...
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Why was the previous Code of Conduct FAQ (and all answers) removed?

I noticed that the original-now-replaced CoC FAQ was deleted. When the new CoC FAQ came out, I tried to look for my old answer as well as others for comparison. Why not just mark the old one ...
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Document pronoun policy debate exclusion from scope

The Meta.SE tour says: Be part of the community that decides how the sites work Any question that has to do with the Stack Exchange family of communities is fair game. Ask about... ...
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Since SE is US based, is the new CoC compliant with the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA)?

Since there are disabilities, such as autism, which may make compliance with the CoC difficult, what steps will SE take to make sure they are in compliance with the ADA, and what reasonable ...
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Changing the Code of Conduct to be more inclusive

I assume that Stack Exchange made its recent changes to the Code of Conduct in good faith and did not see that they were not as inclusive as they thought. That is reasonable; everyone has blind spots. ...
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What exactly is the difference between the old and the new FAQ?

Since SE saw it fit to do what (for a regular user) would be considered "vandalizing" and deleted the original FAQ, I'm unable to ascertain the differences between the old and the new one. Can ...
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What if I misgendered someone in a past comment that still persists?

5 years ago, I posted a comment using the pronoun 'he' as a shortcut. My comment went like this: OP you should read the answer of @user-1248177 . He gives more information than I on this specific ...
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Did anyone consider the impact on autistics of recent Code of Conduct changes?

From the answers I see on Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes it seems like a lot of people are unhappy because they can't follow the grammar rules they learned back in English ...
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Is it acceptable to discuss the validity of the preferred pronoun policy, and where can I do so?

The question entitled "Post for clarifications on the updated pronouns FAQ" has become a protected post so that I cannot reply to it. I do not have a reputation greater than 10 without the association ...
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Where is the most recent version of the Code of Conduct?

Is https://meta.stackexchange.com/conduct (dated 10 October 2019) the most current available Official StackExchange Code of Conduct in its entirety? Does it include the recent gender pronoun and other ...
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Is restricting access to controversial information beneficial to both the community and company? [duplicate]

The question Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes was recently deleted by its poster (a CM, if that matters). And an another revision of CoC was introduced. What I want to ...
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How is the CoC about to change? [duplicate]

In this discussion, ex-moderator Monica Cellio describes a change to the Code of Conduct: A director had dropped into the room to announce an upcoming change to the Code of Conduct; unlike the rest ...
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How severe is the problem of hate sites since the new CoC?

This is meant to be a companion post of sorts to I am non-binary - recent events have made SE less safe for me (and other members of the LGBTQ community) The above post has gotten a lot of attention ...
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Have there been any statements from the CEO in relation to the current crisis of confidence?

I have just read the blog post, An Interview with Stack Overflow CEO Prashanth Chandrasekar. The interview contains nothing in relation to the current situation where moderators are resigning and at ...
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How often is gender actually used in comments?

Given the new CoC changes, it's clear that StackExchange the company wants to make a Big Deal of gendered language. So, out of curiosity, how much will this actually affect? What percentage of ...
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So disappointed to see the fall out this week

I stepped down as moderator on Stack Overflow 10 days ago. There were many reasons, mainly tiredness and being time poor, if I'm to be honest with myself. Participating on this network has always ...
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Be dispassionate? [closed]

When I first came to Stack, it was a terrifying place (much akin to NYC in the late 1970's;) So I think the mandate to "be nice" (kindness, charity, patience) has been enormously beneficial. It's ...
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Fewer Words, not More!

All the guidance that a self moderated community should need: Be respectful. With the instructions to the elected moderators on enforcement, use your best judgment. This is respectful to the ...
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Can the official FAQ be changed slightly with respect to editing old posts?

In the past, we’ve had some drama about what a substantial edit to a post is. The new FAQ has this section: If you are writing or editing a post and can make it gender-inclusive without changing ...
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Could you tell me what was rude about my answer and how I can avoid making the same mistake in future?

Yesterday, I posted a now deleted answer to Does Stack Exchange, Inc. really care about the LGBTQ+ community?. It has been removed by the Community user with a penalty of loosing 100 rep which ...
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Should neopronoun be encouraged to use in Stack Exchange? [duplicate]

For so long I have wished that English has a singular gender-neutral pronoun that isn't "they". After the push on Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes, do you think we should ...
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Can we disappear from this site, or will there be a policy update preventing SE employees from talking about us to the media?

Please give us the ability to delete our data and disappear from this site. You scare me. Edit: It's not enough to simply delete my account. The anonymous scrubbing of names is good, but I want any ...
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What is Stack Exchange going to do to prevent further weaponization of the Code of Conduct? [closed]

This is not about moderators, this is about the general community members being a victim of weaponization of the CoC by other general community members. This question is NOT about pronouns or any ...
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Is the current outrage by the long time community contributors really about pronouns/trans people/Monica? [closed]

This question has nothing to do with whether or not SE wants to fix things or engage with the community, the answers to that are already known: ‘nothing to fix’ and ‘no’. This is about the origins ...
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How should we refer to members of the SE network in a neutral way, and will we be punished for remaining neutral for all reasons?

According to the new CoC: Q9: Do I have to use pronouns I’m unfamiliar or uncomfortable with (e.g., neopronouns like xe, zir, ne... )? Yes, if those are stated by the individual. Q10: ...
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Do you think it's right to stymie opinions on important topics? [closed]

Just to be clear, I'm explicitly referring to the "Official FAQ on gender pronouns and Code of Conduct changes". I think disallowing the association bonus is a bad choice. I read and answer across ...
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How can SE and community improve respecting feelings of mentally ill people and their relatives/friends?

There was a (now deleted) question on MSO about freezing the meta room (10k link). The answer was that nasty things were said there, now the nastiness got cleared and the room was unfrozen when heads ...
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I have a mental health issue and it affects my participation on the site

I've been a regular on the site for some time now and am reluctant to come forward with this post, as I'm scared of the repercussions to my professional life. Suffice to say I'm well known, please do ...
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How can the prohibition on pronoun avoidance possibly be enforced?

I also want to know...from our LGBTQ users--are you offended when the person just doesn't include a pronoun at all? Because rules like this are FOR the people they might hurt. When a gender-neutral ...