I wasn't planning to post an answer here. I think [De Novo proposal][1] is the best answer we can come up with. 

But then someone suggests that they might be no middle ground. That:

> Either all of it is okay, or none of it is okay.

They also seem to suggest that, to protect everyone from the trolls, banning neopronouns altogether might be okay.

**I'm non-binary and I disagree.**


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I hate trolls. I wish there wouldn't exist and that I could ban them out of my existence. However, what I hate even more is making someone feels like their identity isn't valid.

Being transgender, especially non-binary, is being out of the social norms. And inventing pronouns for yourself can be part of it.

I use they/them. If neo-pronouns where to be banned, it wouldn't affect me personally. But it would affect other people in the non-binary community. People that have to struggle **every day** to make their identity recognise has valid. 

I know how it feels. In my native language (french), it's impossible to talk about someone without gendering them. It doesn't prevent us from trying. From making our own rules so that speaking in a neutral way becomes possible. 

It's hard. It really is. It makes you feel like you don't belong in this word. Like you are some sort of monster that shouldn't be here. From time to time, people will say that my way of using "inclusive writing" is awful and shouldn't be allow or exist in the first place. Hearing this is really not nice. It makes me feel all kinds of negative feelings. 

I don't want **anyone else** to feel like that.


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That is why, if the choice is between allowing all neo-pronouns or neither, **I choose all.**

Even if it means accepting the "helicopter attack" thing. 

Sure, it's never nice to be made fun of by someone using the "helicopter attack" meme. But it's even worse to feel invalidated because someone judge that your pronouns weren't acceptable. That they sounded too fake or "silly" to be real. 


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I'm non-binary, I'll do *everything* to protect my community. In this case, if we have to choose between "all neo-pronouns or none", then I choose all. Because I feel that this is the best way to protect my community. To protect **me**.

I really wish we could found a middle ground. I really wish that De Novo proposal will be accepted. But if a middle ground isn't possible, if we have to choose between "all or nothing", then I choose all. 

  [1]: https://meta.stackexchange.com/a/338455/400547