1619 votes

An apology to our community, and next steps

Before "apologizing", you need to come clean: did you lie? (Edit: Post has been deleted. See web archive link here.) Earlier, you (Stack Exchange) wrote: We removed a moderator for ...
1354 votes

An apology to our community, and next steps

I was optimistic when you made this post; this was a much more positive message than the "apology and update" that preceded it. The test of your will to address these problems would have come in the ...
657 votes

An apology to our community, and next steps

As a user who goes by ‘they’, I appreciate your acknowledgment that despite your intent to make users like me more welcome, your actions backfired: Worse, through our handling of this situation, we ...
636 votes

An apology to our community, and next steps

tl;dr: I believe CTO Fullerton is mostly candy-wrapping, not back-tracking from, SE Inc.'s problematic conduct. To my fellow Meta.SE users: I am surprised at those of you who view this post as a ...
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587 votes

An apology to our community, and next steps

I'm a quiet (now resigned) moderator who just sits in her corner in The Workplace, keeping flag queues under control, trying to maintain a community that I care for. I don't spend time in meta....
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383 votes

An apology to our community, and next steps

This apology seems to be sincere but leaves me with questions. I am not overly cynical and believe people can decide to do better and move on from there. This appears to be doing that. One elephant ...
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362 votes

Why were the Code of Conduct changes received so negatively, and what can / could have been done to change that?

Going forward, we will be working with the community to overhaul how we gather input and feedback from our moderators and members of the community to make sure that your voices are heard and involved ...
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354 votes

We'd like your feedback on our new Code of Conduct!

Random comments while reading the document: Our mission Our mission is to build an inclusive community where all people feel welcome and can participate, regardless of expertise, identity, or ...
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318 votes

SE Inc. Director of Public Q&A retweets bad-faith, misrepresentative tweet

There needs to be a serious discussion regarding a policy for staff which prevents them from publicly discussing/endorsing things that directly oppose how the sites generally work. Case in point, I ...
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302 votes

We'd like your feedback on our new Code of Conduct!

I'm not seeing a whole lot in here about meeting our primary expectation: show effort. I see lots about being more welcoming and not use subtle put downs and the effect of no effort, but the only nod ...
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291 votes

Are there specific issues with unwelcoming behavior toward LGBTQ persons on Stack Exchange?

I don't see how we even have a "problem" at all. I think that is the fundamental divide that SE does not seem to understand and why their whole "welcoming" move is met by so much ...
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279 votes

Why were the Code of Conduct changes received so negatively, and what can / could have been done to change that?

Monica was a well-known, well-liked, and well-respected moderator across the Stack Exchange. Her moderation status was suddenly stripped away because of an alleged protracted spat about pronouns in a ...
268 votes

Open hostility from SE staff towards the community - trying to understand it

It's an "us vs. them" bunker mentality We've seen it developing and festering for at least two years now, and in the last few months it appeared to overboil and lead to some extreme, irreversible ...
262 votes

We'd like your feedback on our new Code of Conduct!

I'm a bit worried about how specific and absolute the following bit is: If someone points out that your behavior is making others uncomfortable, stop doing it. Sometimes, people unconsciously say ...
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258 votes

Summing up the main issues (The Story So Far)

Cultural Background: In the United States there has been a push to use gender-neutral language and gender pronouns when given. Stack Exchange (SE) Background: Moderators and employees have access to ...
253 votes

We need "assume good intent" back in the Code of Conduct

This was always the most beautiful part of what we've been trying to build here for the past decade or more. It reminded us to always try for a charitable interpretation and not jump to conclusions. ...
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251 votes

We'd like your feedback on our new Code of Conduct!

No subtle put-downs or unwelcoming language (emphasis mine). I get that the idea is to broadly categorize "not nice" but it seems to me like this is easily mis-interpreted. Are: Sorry, but this ...
249 votes

Why taking responsibility for other people's feelings doesn't work

This was posted too late in the UTC day for anyone to have the votes this deserves, so here is +100. The platform worked great for programming questions because it cut through the noise and clutter ...
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249 votes

Post for clarifications on the updated pronouns FAQ

In What does the Code of Conduct say about gender pronouns?, 3. My religion tells me that people can't change their gender. Aren't you treating me with disrespect in the name of treating others ...
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241 votes

What did Monica do to violate the CoC?

She didn’t do anything to violate the CoC. Given leaked transcripts some have seen and been unable to identify CoC violations, and many mods here from the TL also not being able to identify any clear ...
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241 votes

Post for clarifications on the updated pronouns FAQ

Since all answers to the previous FAQ have been deleted and this concern isn't addressed in the new FAQ I guess I'll ask again: How do you think this is going to work for regular (Stack Overflow) ...
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238 votes

An apology to our community, and next steps

Thank you.
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236 votes

The second draft of our Code of Conduct is available for feedback and review

Don't worry if others give feedback about your question -- they’re trying to make it helpful to as many people as possible. This needs to be made clearer. It's not a "don't worry", it's a "be ...
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229 votes

Why were the Code of Conduct changes received so negatively, and what can / could have been done to change that?

One of the possible reasons could be that users feel Stack Exchange is not setting the right priorities. For many people (including me), the community not being inclusive (enough) is not something we ...
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227 votes

SE Inc. Director of Public Q&A retweets bad-faith, misrepresentative tweet

Seeing a public figure of the company nudge one opinion that people leaving is a positive thing is an indirect way of saying "We don't want people who disagree with our decisions to stay here." The ...
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226 votes

We'd like your feedback on our new Code of Conduct!

No subtle put-downs or unwelcoming language. Regardless of intent, this behavior can have a significant negative impact on others. For example, saying “You could Google this in 5 seconds” is a subtle ...
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226 votes

Why was the previous Code of Conduct FAQ (and all answers) removed?

(Disclaimer: I do have an answer on that question, too ... and I am sad to see the 500 upvotes gone. But my issue is a different one.) That is exactly the opposite of what Stack Exchange Inc. should ...
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223 votes

An apology to our community, and next steps

From this post you've clearly shown that you still know how to engage with the community so I'm genuinely interested regarding why this sort of statement wasn't drafted originally and you opted to go ...
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