What about allowingshowing users to seeprivately statistics on how manythe “unkind” flags marked "helpful" by moderators have been raised against themthat their content has received? General statsstatistics on how many people flagged and how many posts were flagged may be good feedback to help folks understand how their posts are negatively impacting people and might ease some of the burden on moderators if it becomes necessary to do more than warn a user.
We already display stats on how many people our content has reached, but those stats don’t really say whether our impact was perceived as positive or negative.
Just to be clear, only the user and moderators would see these stats. I think making them public would be counter productivecounterproductive. I understand that this is making it more visible to people when they have comments deleted and that might lead to some people arguing with the decision that's been made. My personal belief is that being more transparent is rarely a bad idea.
We delete unfriendly comments because we want the community to be more welcoming. Where is the line between what the community will tolerate and what it won't? How can someone know in advance whether their comment will be perceived as unfriendly by the community? One way is to have discussions about how the CoCCode of Conduct is being applied and have the community weigh in on the site’s meta. If showing statistics to a user about how many times their comments have been flagged as unfriendly causes them to start a discussion on meta, I don't see that as a bad thing.
We let people see down-votes on their posts. Why would letting them see unfriendly flags (that have been reviewed and accepted by the mod team) on their comments be that much different? If we're not going to provide positive feedback on comments (say by flagging something as "friendly"), all we've got to help people learn where we draw the line is negative feedback.
