My account has been suspended for a week because "we've observed some rudeness in your latest activity". I received a message from "moderators" about this and was given an opportunity to reply. I replied with:
"I would be grateful if you could explain to me which part of my comment was rude."
I did not receive an answer to that, so I am asking again here.
As far as I remember, in a comment I made before I got suspended I wrote that "I am angry at some trans people", but I no longer remember what I was angry about and how I expressed this. My comment was a direct (i.e. @user) reply to a user whose comment began with the exact same words ("I am angry at ..."). I can no longer find that user's comment and no longer know what it was about. In any way I don't understand how that part of my comment could have been a cause for suspension. When two people chat amicably and quietly about what each of them is angered by, how is that rude?
If another part of my comment was the cause for the suspension, I would truly like to know what it was that was so offensive that I had to be suspended, because I would like to learn and understand what I did wrong. It was not my intention to be rude (but it was my intention to express my extreme irritation).
If I was suspended for something unrelated to that comment, I am even more desperate to learn what it was that I did that was considered rude. I am aware that my tone was often not-full-of-joy, but I am not aware of being outright rude.
I am especially confused, because I found an old blog post by Joel Spolsky that includes a list of comments which are considered "unfriendly" by "95% of the reviewers". Among them are these:
- This is not correct, for many reasons, many of which were pointed out by plinth below. I d…
- This isn’t a programming question, it is a psychology question. It doesn’t ask for an expl…
I don't understand what is "unfriendly" about these comments, and this adds to my confusion about what exactly is expected of me on this site and what I must avoid.
As the suspension stands, without explanation, I am unable to learn from it and change my behavior.
I wasn't given the warning that appears to be recommended before a suspension, nor have I received any other feedback from mods or users for my behavior on this site.